Lead Well to Be Pursued
Text: Isaiah 35:10 (ESV)
“And the ransomed of the Lord shall return and come to Zion with singing; everlasting joy shall be upon their heads; they shall obtain gladness and joy, and sorrow and sighing shall flee away.”
Introduction
Every man longs to feel wanted by his wife—to be admired, respected, and even pursued. But pursuit doesn’t just happen. It’s the fruit of godly leadership. In Isaiah 35:10, we see God’s people joyfully returning to Him because He made a way and went before them. In the same way, when a man leads well, his wife is drawn to him with joy. Leadership unlocks pursuit.
Point 1: Step Out in Front – Leadership Precedes Pursuit
Biblical Insight:
God’s people returned to Zion because God took the initiative. A man must also take the first step. Leadership is about direction, not domination.
Scripture Reference:
“For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church.” – Ephesians 5:23
Personal Application:
• Spiritually: Be the one to initiate prayer, Bible reading, and church involvement.
• Relationally: Don’t wait for her to fix what’s broken. Plan the date night. Make the first move toward reconciliation.
• Practically: Set financial goals. Make plans for your family’s future. Lead with intention.
Challenge:
Pick one area—spiritual, relational, or practical—and take one bold, intentional step this week.
Point 2: Lead with Love – The Path to Joyful Pursuit
Biblical Insight:
Joy comes when love leads. Christ laid down His life for the church; real leadership in marriage reflects that same sacrificial love.
Scripture Reference:
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” – Ephesians 5:25
Personal Application:
• Listen well. Be fully present in conversation.
• Serve her. Do the small things—dishes, errands, chores she didn’t ask you to do.
• Speak life. Affirm her daily—not just her beauty, but her character and strength.
Challenge:
Send a daily note or text this week sharing one specific thing you admire or appreciate about her.
Point 3: Create a Vision Worth Following
Biblical Insight:
The people in Isaiah 35:10 were returning with joy because they were going somewhere—Zion. A man must lead his family with a clear sense of purpose and direction.
Scripture Reference:
“Where there is no vision, the people perish.” – Proverbs 29:18 (KJV)
Personal Application:
• Talk about the future. Where do you see your marriage and family in 5 years?
• Invite her into your dreams. Ask her what she’s passionate about.
• Move with purpose. Don’t wait for “someday.” Start building now.
Challenge:
Plan a “vision night.” Share goals, pray together, and write down a direction for your family. Revisit it monthly.
Conclusion
Isaiah 35:10 is a picture of joyful return. God’s people pursued Him because He went before them. If you want to be pursued by your wife, step into godly leadership—go first, lead with love, and cast vision. When you do, you create a marriage where pursuit, passion, and purpose flourish.